We have seen people expecting compliments ( including some of those who post here) at the work place or in the family. A post or a share on social media page garners huge likes for some and not so for many. For the latter, they think that friends, buddies, siblings and parents are there to profusely offer you compliments to a level that spoil them and to feel crest fallen when they don’t regularly get them. They remain sullen and remorse and don’t attempt anything new and shy away from even doing their normal routine.
Some managers, mentors, teachers, professors or even parents consciously desist from complimenting team members, mentees, students or children when they perform their tasks that are well within their capabilities. They feel that compliments do make performers not to aim bigger in work or life and they keep expecting appreciations all the time . But the same mentors and teachers do pat people on the back when jobs that needed efforts and skills beyond what they possess.
In short, leaders appreciate people when they excellently perform more than what is expected of them but not when they perform within their ability.
A debate on this topic will be an interesting one. What is your view? Feel free to share it.
THE PULSE by Sivakumar Gopal 