We want to be loved, valued or appreciated. That’s a common nature of a human.
We always expect appreciations or likes for what we do or say. Because they keep us happy. The more we expect such accolades, the more we tend to be egoistic and there is a haughtiness that sets in us leading to total disregard of how we want to see others around us. We feel angry when those surrounding us don’t appreciate us.
We feel elated to be surrounded by people, who believe that as long as they keep praising our actions and words, they will get our favours. This sycophancy over a period, assumes a larger proportion to make us feel arrogant and disrespectful.
Good and long time friends leave us the moment we fail to recognise their value and appreciate them. When we always think about us, we don’t notice the good things in people around us. Relationships are built on mutual trust, love and appreciation. They are broken when we fail to see these virtues in other people. An egoist breaks the relationships due to his selfish attitude and soon he becomes s lonely person.
In every conversation we have with others, we talk about us, our family or what we have achieved. We never enquire about them or their family or their problems. People stay glued to each other through ups and downs only when they share their joys and sorrows.
Care, compassion and empathy towards others go a long way to nurture relationships that will stay rock solid for many years.
So, it’s not all about me but everyone around us. That will keep us and others happy and smiling.
THE PULSE by Sivakumar Gopal 